Q&A: My family like this boy more than my actual boyfriend…


Q: I love my boyfriend but I want something more than just love, I’m 18 years old and my boyfriend is 19, we’ve been dating almost 2 years now. I don’t want to be with him anymore because he was suppose to graduate this year but he didn’t, he doesn’t have a good job and I feel like I’m the only one who wants things in life. But the main reason why I don’t want to be with him anymore, is because I met another guy. He likes me and I like him but he’s 26 years old and I’m just 18 and the thing is that my family likes this guy more than my actual boyfriend… I don’t know what to do?


A: It seems to me that you are caught up in a emotional trap. You are thinking with your heart instead using your brain. It makes no sense. It’s clear to me that your current boyfriend does not think or plan for his future. He’s living by the day. Is that what you want?

On top of that, you like two guys at the same time. You are not being fair to them. It looks really bad on you. And shows how your heart is deceiving you. You’ll end up alone.

Ask yourself this: “Is this the time for me to be so focused on relationships and get myself distracted from my personal plans?” “Why do I need so desperately to have a boyfriend?” “What if I’m following the impulses of my heart and not the signs my mind is give me that something is not right?”

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